Please Me





   

 

Mistress Vanessa Vane






 






All natural. Devious, sharp, ruthlessly witty, and
devilishly intelligent. Also goes by Goddess Vanessa





Psychological Submission 
& Altered States


I create experiences without substances that gradually shift your perception of time, self, and control.

Hypnosis, sensory deprivation, anticipation, repetition, and carefully composed uncertainty become ways of loosening the structures through which we ordinarily experience ourselves. Familiar patterns begin to soften. Time stretches. The smallest change in sensation or atmosphere can begin to reorganise your experience.

I am fascinated by altered states because they create a liminal space where play becomes possible. Within that space we are no longer confined to habitual ways of thinking, feeling, or relating. Something new can emerge.

Psychological disorientation, emotional sadism, surreal scenarios, trance, and the gradual erosion of composure are all different ways of entering this process. I am interested in what becomes possible once certainty begins to loosen.

Creative pain & sadism



My sadism is joyful, intuitive, and deeply erotic. I smile easily. I laugh often. I delight in watching people become more alive.

I work with impact, pressure, needles, kicking, trampling, face slapping, CBT, heat, electrical play, and other forms of carefully calibrated pain. Every sensation is shaped through observation, curiosity, and the person in front of me.

I may frustrate you, overwhelm you, confuse you, make you laugh, make you ache, or leave you suspended in anticipation. I build from moments of connection, scripts cannot initiate these experiences.  Although I also love to create roleplay senarios that fit perfectly into a sadistic game

I enjoy the moment struggle changes character and resistance begins to merge with desire. That is where play becomes transformative, and where my sadism feels most alive.
Kimbaku  &  Predicament

As the ties develop. Stillness becomes active. A shift of weight, a held breath, a moment of impatience can completely transform the experience.

Within Yukimura-style shibari there is a beautiful progression from connection, to challenge, to release. I work with this rhythm because it allows the emotional landscape of the session to unfold gradually.

Predicament bondage extends this dialogue. Rather than simply restraining you, the rope invites you into a game of choices, endurance, curiosity, and surrender. Balance shifts.

The body begins to negotiate with itself. Every movement changes the experience. Surrender develops through participation rather than passivity.

The process of being bound is a liminal space where vulnerability, creativity, intimacy, and transformation can unfold together.

Shibari /Psychological submission training / Needle Play / CBT / NS / Tease & Denial / Chastity / Abduction scenarios / Bondage / Sensory deprivation  / Anal Training / Strap-on / Deep-throat Training / Dominant GV / Dominant OV / Ball Busting / Pet Play / Physical Humiliation / Psychological Humiliation / Medical Inspection / Feminisation / Slut training / Face-sitting / Foot Worship / Heel / Boot Worship / Forced bi / Ruined Orgasms / Torture / Spanking / Cuckolding / Milking / Urethra play / Face slapping / Spitting / Sissyplay / Nylons / Latex / Leather / Trampling / Public Play (for long term connections) / Dirty games / Electrical play / Duo domination / Impact play / Catheter Play / Couples / Beginners / Experienced







My Journey


My style and philosophy of domination comes a culmination of years of artistic performance, photography, curation, philosophy, writing and acid trips 

Alongside my fascination with the human condition, my empathetic nature, and my rebellion against the structures that inhibit creativity and expansion, BDSM as bodywork felt less like a profession than a calling. It was the first place all of these questions could be explored through another person’s body.





 I bring over six years of international professional experience and a much longer personal history in BDSM. I have studied with various shibari practitioners and masters, finding myself increasingly drawn to the intimate psychology of Yukimura-style rope.

I continue to write prose, essays and short stories, read for beauty and depth, make art; add to my pile of 100’s of polaroids, study philosophy, psychology, neurology, anatomy, meditation and Kimbaku (Shibari), I travel; I love to take stock in nature and dive into bodies of water, I train in martial arts; or I train at perfecting my roundhouse kick.

Nothing I study stays in its own discipline for very long. Philosophy finds its way into rope. Martial arts helps me kick higher and harder. Writing changes the way I listen. Art makes me build a session space with giant lego pieces infused with potential.



Philosophy
To submit is to deconstruct & expand

My sessions are an opportunity to loosen the embedded structures that contain us and enter a liminal space of play and creativity. 

Play is where I feel most alive. It invites us into a liminal space where ordinary structures loosen and creation becomes possible. For a while we are no longer governed by habit, expectation, or certainty. We become free to imagine, experiment, and discover other ways forms of intimacy. I am fascinated by the moment fixed identities begin to loosen. The composed self softens, forgotten parts awaken, and vulnerability appears within a carefully held structure. These moments cannot be forced; they emerge through trust, attention, and play.
Rope arrived later in my career and quickly became a lifelong commitment to exploration. Bringing shibari into an already established practice of play has allowed me to use it as an extension of myself and has become another language through which I compose intimacy, attention, surrender, and transformation. 

Some conversations are better held, quiet, bound and tight.

If you recognise yourself in these ideas, perhaps we already have somewhere to begin.

I choose the people I work with carefully. Curiosity, generosity, emotional intelligence, and the capacity for play matter more to me than experience.

Introduce yourself thoughtfully. Tell me what draws you towards me and what you hope we might discover together.
 

All natural. Playful, curious, ruthlessly witty, joyfully sadistic and devilishly intelligent.

My sessions are an opportunity to loosen the embedded structures that contain us and enter a liminal space of creative play.


To submit is to deconstruct & expand




The play space is where we can dislocate from what makes us feel stuck and be released  from biases we  hold towards ourselves.

 There is an emmense freedom of choice.

 Together we build a small world, where rules and practices can be redefined; enter and exit systems as they move and morph.
I am intersted in finding an expansive path, one that opens outwards, but that Is devised within the bounds we make.